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Dating in the modern world; Catfishing, Ghosting, Breadcrumbing and what it all means! 


Clock  Jan 20, 2020       Clock  0 Comments


By Tiffany Villaluz

So, we’ve just hit 2020 and find ourselves at the beginning of a new decade.

Modern dating can be a bit of a minefield, so we thought we’d start the year by giving you some information about scams, traps and how to protect yourself against being a target of scammers, in particularly in the online dating world.

You may have heard of the terms “Catfishing”, “Ghosting” and “Breadcrumbing” – but what do they actually mean?!

You might have seen the TV show “Catfish”, (if you haven’t definitely check it out!). Basically, it’s a reality show based on the Catfishing scam, in which people create fake online identities using fake photos and information about themselves with the intention of luring unsuspecting victims for the purposes of fraud.

Ghosting on the other hand, occurs when you’re in a relationship with someone who for reasons unknown to the victim decide they no longer wish to be in that relationship anymore. Instead of breaking up with the other person using traditional methods (like, telling them!), they simply cut all communication with their partner and basically disappear, and becoming a ghost…

Breadcrumbing is a bit of a strange term; however, I think of the popular kid’s fairy-tale “Hansel and Gretel”, where in the story, the duo leaves a trail of breadcrumbs in their tracks.

In dating, breadcrumbing is a very painful and passive aggressive way to end a relationship. The “breadcrumb-er” manipulates their partner into thinking the relationship is still OK, by throwing them “breadcrumbs” of hope. Mixed signals, hot and cold messages that might often be vague or non-sensical can be signs your being breadcrumbed.

Essentially, breadcrumb-er’s are really just plain old mean! They love the thrill of being in control whilst the victim is left confused, sometimes thinking they’re going crazy…until they (hopefully) realise they’re just hanging on, believing that the other person cares, when all the breadcrumb-er really wants is for their victim to think that they do.

So, with all that said, it’s important to keep yourself safe whether you’re currently dating someone, or you’re and online dating newbie.

At DateMyFriend Australia, we have the personal safety of our members at the forefront of our minds at all times. So, we’ve come up with a few tips for you, especially if you’re venturing into the world of online dating for the first time.

  • Whilst there are great, genuine singles out there, it’s still important to proceed with caution.
  • Don’t share your contact information or location, other than the state in which you live too soon.
  • Do your research! Have a Google of the person you’re chatting to online, do they have a social media presence? Do they look like the kind of person you would feel comfortable sharing your personal information with?
  • Stay alert for any “Red Flags”, like:
  • Feeling pressured to provide your personal details early on.
  • Being asked how much you earn, or financial information about your family and their social status.
  • Telling you they’re not ready to meet face to face or even speak over the phone is a huge sign someone might not be what they seem.

And the list goes on…

Of course, you can find more safety tips on our site and read countless stories and articles on the internet about how to identify a potential scammer and keep yourself safe because, ultimately, your safety whilst dating, whether it be online or offline is your responsibility.

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